A lot of people think that Long Distance Relationships (LDR) can’t work and some don't even bother to try it out. There’s already a stereotype out of it and if you’re considering one, you might find people advising you against it. We’re not saying it will be easy, but here are some steps to make LDR works for you.
1. Change your perspective
Instead of thinking of it as another hardship try viewing it as a learning journey for both of you. Kind of like a test of love and one that will only make your relationship stronger. It will give you time to grow as individuals while learning how to be together which is always good in a relationship. This will ensure you never really will over depend on each other.
“I fell in love with her when we were together, then fell deeper in love with her in the years we were apart.”- Nicholas Sparks
2. Communicate regularly
Try making it like a routine especially the most important part which is greeting each other in the morning and night. On top of that, be sure to update your partner on what’s new in your life like new friends, problems, promotions and the works. Plus, with the existence of smartphones, sending photos and videos will make you feel closer to each other.
3. Keep doing things together
Now you’re probably wondering how, but like previously mentioned with technology anything is possible. Play an online game together. Watch a documentary on YouTube or Vimeo at the same time.“Take a walk together” outside while video-calling each other. So, you’ll still share experiences while apart. Try to communicate regularly and creatively.
“I exist in two places, here and where you are.” - Margaret Atwood
4. Stay honest with each other
Okay, so this is a top priority in any relationship but when you are far away from each other, sometimes it’s hard to follow. So many different emotions will pop up during a LDR and be sure you communicate these feelings to each other like your insecurities, jealousy, fear and anything else that picks at your mind. Disclosing these things too late may cause a huge rift.
5. Give each other a personal reminder
There is a lot of power in mementoes be it a bracelet, photo, or any trinket as long as there is a meaning behind it. Pick something that will remind your partner of you and vice versa. At times when you get into a fight, you might not be able to contact each other to talk it out but one look at this small reminder will soothe your heart in the meantime.
“I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart).” - E.E. Cummings
Whatever it may be, when it comes to love nothing is impossible and if you want it bad enough, put in the effort and you’ll see it blossom. If you want to know more about relationships, make sure to tune in to Travel For Love, Astro Hello Channel 110 and On Demand.