“I got a date! Oh my God, send HELPPPP! I haven’t been dating for ages, now I don’t know how to start a conversation. I don’t think I can do this”
Hold your horses, don’t back out just yet. We know some of us have the tendency to freak out when we are meeting someone new. Especially on your FIRST DATE! Been there, done that! So, we feel yah. We’re going to share some tips and tricks for you to intrigue your partner’s interest on your first date.
Our main GOAL is to ask questions that lead to a bigger question. You get what we meant, don’t you? Here are the questions to get the conversation FLOWWWWW-ing.
#1 Ask about the recent movie in the theater
Dudeeeee, everyone watches movies. So, there’s nothing wrong with another movie update right. Unless he’s isn’t a fan. Uh-oh (Okay! No worries, let’s just give it a go then - that’s how the conversation can grow) by simply asking:
“Have you watched the new Star Wars movie?”
Linking our movie interest as well as a little rain check on our date whether they are a moviegoer or nahh without making it obvious. It’s more than just a YES or NO question, it helps the conversation to develop from there. Slowly but steady.
#2 What’s TRENDING?
They say don’t judge a book by its cover but you can tell how concerned they are from just a question. Yapp! We know it’s your first date and we bet you’ve exchange information via text messages about each other. Hello, modern days. No more telegram or love letters, just type it out and press enter.
So it’s going to be boring if you ask the same question all over again when we meet and they probably think that we are not paying attention to the DEETS! DON’T DO THAT! Major TURN OFFF.What you can do is, ask for their 2 cents on the current trends on social media. We get to observe how in-depth they show their interest in an issue or topic. It’s a + point if we can debate on it - in a good way, GOOD WAY. Which is a good thing, we can see connections from the conversation.
We can never say NO to food! Correct me if I’m wrong, but most of us connect because we share the same interest in flavors. The tastebuds can’t lie and that is why the next question that we should be asking on our first date is,
“Have you tried the Nasi Lemak Ayam in TTDI?”
Just so you know, food connects people. Malaysians and food are inseparable. We’re meant to be, just like you and me. Ehhhh! Name the menu and wallah! Let the food do the rest.
#4 Adrenaline Junkie
People normally ask a safe question like “What do you enjoy doing the most?”, but hummm that will neither spice up your first date conversation nor make an impression on them. Let’s not beat around the bush, guys. We’re in 2020. Straight to the point, please. Why don’t we ask them whether they’re up for any adventure activities because after all, you need to work on those mutual interests right? Start with this, “Do you hike?” - we never know if we never ask.
Ask with confidence. Remember guys, CONFIDENCE IS KEY.
#5 The WOULD-YOU-RATHER
Yassss! From all the questions that we discussed above, we know we can always make way for WOULD YOU RATHER question. “Would you rather read a book or watch a movie?”. Can you see the correlation there? There’s also an app for it!
So, to cut the awkwardness, WOULD YOU RATHER GO OUT WITH ME or STAY SINGLE? Okay, okayyy. Let’s not put you in an awkward position and ask a real question, alright? Wait, isn’t that a real question though?
There! From just 5 questions, they can develop to another 50 more questions. Sense where the questions are flowing and every question COUNTS! Whatever it issssss, keep calm and let’s avoid the first date DON’Ts shall we. Good luck and enjoy your date.